Feedback Thoughts

Honest feedback is something I really appreciate
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The first article I read was Recalibrating the Perfectionist Mind  by Dr. Jay-Lee Nair. In this article, Dr. Nair wrote about how perfectionism can be detrimental to one's success. This can be because of performance anxiety, a bad relationship between work ethic and performance or even not trying for fear of failing. 

I am guilty of that last one for sure! I have noticed times in the past where if I am not sure if I will be successful at something, whether it be applying for a competitive internship or trying out a new workout class, I will just not do it at all. Looking back, this is a really negative habit and is something I need to consciously work on in order to over come. I need to think with a growth mindset of "not yet" rather than not trying at all! 

Silence the Critical Voices in Your Head by Sabina Newaz was the second article that I chose to read. The title really jumped out to me from the list because I am a pretty harsh critic of myself and my work. The older I get, the more I have become to realize that this is a defense mechanism I have been guilty of using. 

"You didn't like my essay? Well me either. I did horrible! You think my design skills need more work? I knew you would say that.. I am horrible at it!" Those are just examples of ways I have done that in the past. You can't hurt my feelings, because I've already done it to myself was the mindset I was using. This article was a nice chance to hear how to fight against that. It said how when we receive positive feedback, we should believe it. I know I have thought that people were just being nice and did not actually enjoy my work, so it was interesting to hear how that is dangerous to one's success and mindset.